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Signs That He is in Love with You

Recently I decided to do something daring… If you know me very well, I’m not someone people consider daring. People close to me or people who have worked with me can attest to me being completely introverted and keeping to myself, although I have my moments when I’m overly cheerful and playful, spot the keyword ‘moments’

I’m a very private person and love keeping myself to myself unless I like you. Whenever I tell people I’m shy, they hardly believe me because I can be friendly when I choose to be. That’s why I laugh when some people say I have a bit of sanguine (temperament type) in me. Your temperament type is the reason why you act the way you do.

I mentioned earlier that I did something that I normally wouldn’t have done. In one of my previous posts, I mentioned how I connected with Mr.O. In the early days of getting acquainted, we had a series of conversations on so many topics.

Mr.O is blunt to a fault, intelligent and a great conversationalist. We’ve had a lot of arguments about relationships, business, religion, culture… almost anything you can think of and he likes to win. Well, I had to admit he was right most of the time- although we’ve held strongly to our spiritual values. So I decided to learn from him or rather we learn from each other, share ideas and enjoy our friendship until he decides to annoy me- Not that we’ve not gotten on each other’s nerves already!

How to Know if a Guy is Interested in You

There are reasons people connect with you; for friendship, business partnership, networking, sex, relationship, fling, mentorship, whatever. One of the first things to do is to find out why someone connects to you and define that connection immediately.

So I asked some couple of guys I’ve connected with for a while if they wanted to date me. I was shocked at their responses. I got a 99% yes, the other guy was on the fence (but I took his response as a no, which he wasn’t even comfortable with). A few of the guys had once declared their intentions but I was shocked when I got positive responses from guys who I thought just wanted to be friends!

Let me address the guys, if you like a lady, please speak up. I understand that you want to be friends but after a while you should be able to tell her your intentions. I feel guys that just play along actually don’t know what they want and go with the let’s see how it goes card.

I’m not saying that when you meet a woman you like you should immediately tell her all life’s goals including to get into a relationship possibly leading to marriage with her. That would be too forward and going that way hasn’t proven to be the best either as people tend to pretend their way through until marriage. I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t want that for yourself. I understand that most guys want to be sure that the feeling is mutual before declaring his intentions, which is fair enough. You can tell if a woman is in love with you by these signs.

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Ways to Tell That He is in Love with You

The way he looks at you
He looks at you like he can’t believe you exist. Not just the way he looks at you but the frequency even if you are together or you are across the room from each other, his gaze will always be on you. He may even ask where you’ve been all his life. Lol

He makes you a priority
A popular saying in the Bible, where your treasure is, there your heart will be. When a man loves you, he will make spending time with you a priority. And if he doesn’t have time, he’ll make sure to let you know when he will. No one is so busy as not to check up on the one he loves. When a man loves you, you’re the most important person in his life and he makes sure to carve out a place in it for you. You’re not an afterthought or a backup plan. He’s not all about talking but backing it up with actions.

He trusts you enough to open up to you
Men would rather keep information about themselves until he trusts you enough not to be betrayed or taken for granted. If he shares his life with you, then he’s really into you. Being able to feel secure with someone in that way is not something to take for granted.

He is your best friend

You talk about almost anything, whether it’s a girl crushing on him, a night out with his guys or any random stuff. He also can’t wait to share good news with you or some crazy, embarrassing moments he experienced. You tease each other a lot and both of you know it’s not an insult even when you call him a cow for saying or doing something silly- those in a ‘serious’ relationship may not get to this stage at all. 

He cares about your interests and encourages you
He wants to know all about your passions and hobbies and tries to connect to these areas of your life as much as possible. He also supports your dreams and encourages you to be a better version of yourself. Instead of draining your energy, he’ll revitalize you on an almost daily basis.

He makes you feel safe
We all kind of walk on eggshells at the beginning of a relationship. You begin to worry over even little things like if he likes the way you laugh? If he feels embarrassed when you get emotional when watching movies? A guy that is in love with you will make you feel safe with him and lets you know that you don’t have to be someone else when you are with him.

He misses you when you are apart
Men miss a woman’s absence instead of her presence. To ladies, it sounds absurd but it’s true. When you love someone, you yearn for their presence and miss them when they’re gone. This is different from obsession, please. When a man is in love with you, he’ll be in touch when you are apart. He will send you funny videos, pictures, memes or anything he finds online or things he thinks you’d like, or he’ll tell you about something funny or crazy that happened to him. You just feel a constant connection even when you are apart.

He gives you your space
A healthy relationship is when both partners understand the need to give each other some space. We all need some time alone, catch up with friends, watch a favourite TV show or play games etc. Instead of being possessive, he’ll recognize your unique needs. I remember Mr. O once suggested I went out with a friend because I had not done anything fun in a long while.

You laugh and joke with each other
A key part of a successful relationship is being able to share a similar sense of humour. You don’t need to always explain a joke. Be with someone you can laugh and joke with. Marriage is not a military barracks. There is no fear in love.

He is proud of your accomplishments
He celebrates your big and small wins. When you reach a goal, he will be your number one supporter.

He makes his intentions clear
When a guy truly loves you and wants to be with you, he won’t ever leave you guessing what his intentions truly are. He includes you in his bigger life plan. He doesn’t speak about the future vaguely; instead, he makes it clear that he envisions a future with you in it. Talk is cheap but backing up his words with concrete actions tells you everything you need to know.

He is eager to introduce you to people that matter to him
He wants you to meet his parents, know his friends and if possible be friends with his best friend. At the same time he also wants to meet your family, know your friends and other people that are close to you.

Hey ladies, these are some sure tell signs that a guy is into you. So if he’s showing all some of these signs and is yet to say anything, don’t just assume his intentions . Just ask the dude what he wants so you don’t end up wasting your time and investing your emotions on something that has no bearing. Should I increase the volume?